What goes around comes around. All is fair in love and war. Good things come to those who wait. Everything happens for a reason. The universe never gives you more than you can handle.
Not so fast. Not today. What if I actually can't handle it? What if I don't freaking deserve any of this? What if I have waited long enough? What if this happened for no reason at all?
So, here's the thing. We all have those not-so-glamourous days where everything that could go wrong, in fact, does. It could be as minute as a regular Monday morning when you miss your yoga class and have to pay a 20$ cancellation fee. (Queue the basic white girl eye roll).
But maybe it isn't just a day, or week, or month, of bad juju. Maybe you lose your job because the company can no longer afford to pay you. Maybe, after 5 years, your boyfriend says he can't do this whole "relationship-thing" anymore. Maybe, you find out someone you love was rushed to the hospital and the doctors aren't so sure he will make it. Not so easy to keep calm and carry on, right?
Bad things happen to both good and bad people, I mean, obviously, but I've always questioned why some of the most caring and kind people I know are hit the worst. By worst, I mean the things that you can't imagine going through on your own. The things that shake up your world and make you want to crawl in bed and never take off the covers
Suffering is inevitable. It's a part of life and we have all experienced it to some degree. But, why do the people so full of love get their hearts broken so easily?
Why do bad things happen to good people? I have a point, I promise! I can tell you what I know about bad things and good people. We were put on this earth to connect. Connect with ourselves, with others, maybe with a higher power, and with the world. It's the connection we form with our attachments that can make suffering difficult, especially during time of loss, but it is also connection that pulls us through. It's connection that makes us stronger, and connection can get us through just about anything.
How does being a good person come into play? Let's put it this way: It's the difficult times in our lives that help us help others. But it also allows others to help us. That's why good people always win in my eyes. When you are a good person, your actions tend to speak louder, if not in line, with your words. Your love comes naturally and it is resilient and contagious, making people hold on to it and reciprocate it. As Maya Angelou said, "people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." When you are a good person, it's not what you say, or what you do, it's the love behind your actions that people will never forget. It's those people that will be there when times get hard, when your days go wrong, when you lose your job, or when your heart is broken. Those people will not run, but instead, they will sprint to be by your side. So while an attachment to something can make a hardship even harder, other attachments will pull you through-- those attachments are your connections to your loved ones.
Instead of looking at every bad situation as, "Why me? What the F did I do to deserve this?," take a step back, and try thinking about it this way ::: This happened. I'm allowed to upset. I had no control over this. But I can handle this. I am strong. I am grounded. As a result of my kindness, love, and thoughtfulness, I have people by my side who are invaluable and will help me get through this. I am not alone. I am not alone. Because of whom I am, I have others to help get me through this.
Never overlook the power of being a good person. Never overlook the power of connection. It's connection that puts you in your place. It's connection that propels your life forward and allows you to live in the present moment. It's connection that helps you to understand and be understood. It's connection that puts you at ease and assures you that you can get through anything.